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If he keeps on doing this.
Leaving him on read reddit I married someone who doesnt do weird shit like that. Hopefully he is compelled to respond to my feelings. Edit. Otherwise just stop talking to him and I guess, if you want to, block him. Two reason this happens: Tire kickers will reach out about items they can’t afford or are not serious enough to pull the trigger on or buyers will reach out to 5+ sellers for the same item then buy from the one with the best price and/or Like he’ll ask me how life’s been and then leave me on read and not respond until our next convo. He’s probably busy being a player and walks home lonely all the time. If you block him on your phone , you won’t know if he reaches out to you. Blocking shows you're bothered by it. But I don’t know if your partner is the same but my SO literally never uses his phone. Or check it out in the app stores which by the way block him back on everything and please have self respect and leave him alone. Im 21 female. If it’s like a one time thing every now and then what makes things so weird is that he will leave me on delivered for hours (one time 15+ hours) at a time. If he's being weird and keeps on nagging me when I'm not answering (but still he'd be only "platonic") - only then I'd block him. so He left me on read. That’s an insecurity that’s she’s welcome to talk to him about, but it’s not him doing anything outside the normal bounds of their social contract. I would leave him on read and move on. I’d Think of it this wayimagine he’s sitting there wanting to text you but is like, “But, but she left me on read, what if she doesn’t want to talk to me anymore!!!” So he doesn’t text you. He could reply, even if it’s short. Leave him. Reply reply honestwizard Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. But when we do text he usually leaves me on read and I don’t know why. Before the podcast Even before ramadan, I have been contemplating to break up with this guy for the sake of Allah swt. Title says it all, If a friend does that does that mean they don’t wanna be your friend anymore and don’t wanna talk to you anymore, now I know that this perosn is usually busy but he always reply’s back in a reasonable time but this time he left me on delivered for 4 hours so far and maybe more what do you think? i was trying to set a date up with a guy within my friendship group and i asked him if he was free that night and he left me on read for 18 hours while simultaneously being online the entire time. You have no time in life to waste. So recently my boyfriend got a new job and I'm extremely happy and I completely get that, I am the same. Use your understanding of Like, if you read my message I'm going to assume that you got time to talk to me, but that you decided to ignore me, however, if you don't open the chat and don't read my message till you have time to answer, I will assume that you are busy and can't answer. So that may be the answer to your question in a way. There was another guy who can't seem to take no for an answer. i always try to reply to her and if i dont know what to say i wont open it (since i see the message on push) and respond later when i think of what to reply with so im not leaving her on read. As soon as I have time, I fully read it and reply. “I won’t. An ex who leaves you on read obviously isn’t as eager to Left on read is worse because they were active enough to open and probably read. Wish me luck! It's still all about him. I don’t mind others leaving me on read at all and I also do leave others on read sometimes. If he keeps leaving you on read and not responding, then let him reach back out to you. It'll drive him NUTS. Delivered because you dont know if theyve seen it or not, i had a friend leave me on delivered and i confronted them on it, turns out the little thing that says if theyre online was just broken, they hadnt touched It just confused the issue. I messaged my ex’s friend to talk to her about my feelings but she told me that my ex had moved on and hated me for leaving him. If he keeps contacting you, block him. Girls want guys to really try (whether or not it’s right to be debated). (This happened 9 times) I [Read: Why do guys come back when you ignore them? The mind games of men] 5. Very often, I don’t even remember having had opened his texts. None of this means I don't like the girl I'm seeing. Seek closure instead of jumping to In this context, the question arises – should I leave him on read or delivered? Does a Guy Care if You Leave Him on Read? Ultimately, it depends on the dynamic of the relationship and the individuals involved. Regardless of how I view the relationship (which only dictates the length of the text) I can leave people on read for sometime between hours-months. I want to see what he does. Background: mutual friend introduced us in October 2018, no contact again until I reached out on FB and started talking to him in December 2018. If he texts me back, I’m going to treat him as a friend. If people open and read then forget to respond that's on them. We rely on user reports to find rule-breaking behavior quickly. The next morning he apologized for his behavior and tried to make it up to me. Only this one (over 4 years) keeps messaging me on Facebook. We weren’t really having sex very often and I think I lost attraction to him. So you’re talking to a girl and you notice you’re on delivered for a while, you get fed up and start giving her the same energylet me tell you fellas it doesn’t work, 90% of the time she won’t even notice what you’re trying to do and she’ll just move on, it Leave it on read so he gets the message. My social energy levels are all over the place, sometimes I’m chatty as anything, sometimes I have no brain capacity to I won't just make fun of you and I'll give you some advice but I have a feeling you won't listen. Maybe it's his religious issues, maybe his issues with CSA, but regardless, if he has PTSD he needs treatment and it's not up to you to make him get it. When he reaches out to you and you leave him on read, he will definitely feel it! As far as social media goes, let him continue to follow you. It's a reality that at some point they will remember you like the one who got away, that leaving you was a mistake or they will think it was a matter of timing. Check "Community Info" in the top right corner if you're using the app, or use the old version of reddit by typing "old" in place of "www" into the URL and look at the top of the sidebar if you're on desktop. Though, my phone has been on silent since high If I had to guess I would say this kid is kind of just not sure how to handle the situation and feels awkward, but also him leaving you on open and avoiding you is kind of mean. I knew I’d have a happy relationship with him, but didn’t want to settle with being content. We kissed and now I feel disgusted. Hopefully I can give you a little perspective; I feel the opposite these days is a lot rarer - so people responding immediately without leaving you on read. Tell him the truth lol. Unless you like stupid games that go nowhere, let him feel your absence, give him the missing of you. However I will tell you before a complete break up to suggest a break (2 weeks) it’ll take a legit two weeks to figure out if you wanna be with that person you Now, my ex just texted me, apologizing for all of this, wanting to reconnect. let him be mad. I find it mind boggling that the more I read on this sub Reddit the more I see similarities between my narc and others experiences. I’ve been debating whether or not to confront him about casually or what. Anyway, I have had a few times where I was sort of busy, or at least had some sort of distraction going on, read the message, formulated a reply (sometimes even typed it out), and then either forgot to send it or missed the send button and didn't realize it until some time later. like ever lol. Do not post content that promotes hate based on identity or vulnerability. My bf(22M) doesn’t text me(18F) a whole lot throughout the day. 69 votes, 19 comments. Well, I am glad the confusion is settled for you. See I dunno; I am guilty of sometimes leaving people on read. If you don’t live together and he’s not violent. I'm taking the new job and I will go with the plans and move to that small town and get away from everything and everyone. That you get so upset because people leave you on read is really on . I’m struggling with this 😩 I begged HIM to take me back after he said, he wants a divorce and signed a paper, and now I am a little scared again, but I drag myself into the same thing, it’s like a drug can’t leave it, even when you know you should, don’t want to leave the good moments even though the bad outweighs it, somebody help 4. Ask why they didn’t respond. I then texted him a few days after that, and he left me on read. so the boy who i’ve had an Me and a girl I have been talking to on and off for a year just had a pretty big argument last night and she just left me on read 40 minutes ago and i know that shes out with her friends right now until later tonight. I called him out on it and told him how it upsets me and he’s doing his best to get better at it. I asked him to not leave me on open and I talked to him about how I don't like being left on open and gave him my reason why. No hurt or hard feelings. Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or THIS SUBREDDIT IS FOR A PODCAST CALLED Reddit On Wiki, THAT READS REDDIT STORIES. Am I wrong to leave him on read after he lost interest and has been distant? We were seeing eachother about a month and he said he lost feelings. I do want to see him again. At least not for now Posted by u/iSlingShlong - 253 votes and 35 comments 20 votes, 16 comments. I do it too and I have mine turned off because I know nobody wants to see the read time stamp of their text message I haven’t gotten to. that communicating isn't an option right now. Shit happens. Please keep the rules of r/dating_advice in mind while participating here. Although I know that it was the best thing to do, there's still a part of me not wanting to leave him. I suggest you don’t “overreact” as it is quite possible your friends are busy and skimmed through your text, not fully reading it. He didn't left me on read except I got a very cold response from him that seems like he never cared. Do I only leave him on read when I I made the mistake by calling him out and I straight away said what the problem is (the communication) he left me on read again. i felt like we weren't on the same page when we were I don't want to leave him on read. I understand people can be too busy to text back And as far as her going off on her own, that was inevitable. Heal yourself. Yes! We live in the same neighborhood, and the feeling that I couldn't see him even we're only 1 block away, it sucks. I feel like I am making some progress, finally, but simultaneously feel stuck. That, anyways, doesn't mean they will come back. 11M subscribers in the relationship_advice community. It can be hard to just let it go and move on, but it is really one of the more healthy choices to make. When my baby is older, we could tell him that we got an amicable divorce. I will read texts, but I won't reply until there's a good moment. So when he threatened to leave me I said "fine. Leaving someone on read is definitely a sigh of not wanting to talk and is rude in general. I'm going to talk to him tonight. I read thousands upon thousands of messages between them and I started being everything he fantasized about. Blocking you, even temporarily, is a pretty clear sign. I’m not saying this to judge him I’m just curious what you guys think it is? Am I texting too much or something? Like he’ll ask a question and then I answer and bro just leaves me on read and I feel stupid or like I’m being judged. You are a good guy that wants to grow and enjoy your life, while your ex might just be content with What is the difference between these 2 forms of ghosting? You know they go online but your message hasn't been read. Sometimes I asked him if he is feeling OK, sometimes I shared the funny picture of my pet. It depends what he’s saying of course, but really if you leave him on read instead of instigating and being the one to put effort in most the time it might tip the scales again and give him a wake up call because it seems he’s taking your texts for granted. I think not blocking and being nice is way better than blocking. Internet Culture (Viral) Amazing; Animals & Pets just people who show up on LinkedIn’s search. I have decided maybe I shouldn’t tell him that I know about her. I never tried to message him and I wouldn’t have. Read the list every time you feel that need to think you miss him. true. I don't value texting and will read texts , but not reply until I have a moment to draft a reply properly. Every time he made plans with her I found a way to make him stay or I made sure that I I don't like it when people leave me on read because of how its kind of like abruptly walking away from a conversation. I was in a very similar position to you. “Where the hell are you?!” “Leave me alone,” you snapped at him. However, he never To ignore also somewhat applies more to people ignoring each other, whereas to leave on read applies a bit more to the most recent message. I regreted how I keep cutting the no contact rule just to try and talk to him. When i confronted him about it he said "Soz" "was out on a bike ride". Secure me wants to send him a text letting him know I understand he’s busy and I am thinking about him. I literally cannot understand how this happenedi mean, i understand that SIL hijacked the situationbut i can’t understand WTF she was thinkinglike ok first 5 seconds i guess i can see her jokingly accepting itbut how everyone could ignore you and your nephew (I’m assuming since he knew who gave him the T-shirt) telling them the We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I have no problem with him leaving me ignored because you can be too busy to check, but this guy opened my response, read it, and decided not to respond to a direct question asked to him. Im curious how people react and deal with being left on read. Right now I’d welcome him back with open arms because he still holds the power. As for me, I have a friend with the newest phone, and he left me on read. I really dont want to lose him. "I'm not always able to respond right away, so it's nice to know that the other person can tell that I got their message. Later that night he sends me a snap again of just him so I do the same and send one of just me. Let him run back to her once he realizes that I am really gone. What confounds me further is that he was the one to initiate texting me, so it's not like I caught him at a bad time. Totally forgot the specifics. That being said, if you want to hang out with someone, just do it without fear of rejection. shows. He's still an asshole. I told him the truth, that when I was angry, I had planned to leave and that I even went looking into a lawyer, a co-parenting plan, and a new place to live. The text was on 'delivered'. And once or twice he would discover that the guy was over her We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Even though I miss him I'm glad we are divorcing. But if you keep leaving him on read instead of telling him this isn't gonna go anywhere, you're just prolonging the inevitable. I often leave guys on delivered so we can keep texting the next morning and then Women don’t owe men shit. I hope one day I can find the strength to leave my ex on read. Try your best to be kind. We agreed to try being friends and he still kept in contact over the past week but very little to the point of So I objectively don’t think it’s bad to leave someone on read or to not reply, but it all depends on your relationship and the expectations you have. If he keeps on doing this I'll just leave on delivered. I’m talking about when OP sends actual messages and he gets ignored but someone else talks and everyone responds to that which is weird. and it’s just easier for everyone involved to leave some random on read. If I like you I’m gonna make any attempt I can to talk to you and see you. Once you read it then at least reply "busy talk later" . " Posted by u/Automatic_Pace5183 - 1 vote and 3 comments Business, Economics, and Finance. You’ll hear from me at least every other day. Otherwise, nobody doesn’t text someone back within the 5 days if they really like them. style. I wanted more. Boyfriend keeps leaving me on read . He's in medical school and he seems fairly busy. Tell him you’re sorry. I'll be honest, sometimes I leave people on read too (even though being left on read bothers me a lot too), but sometimes I'm either busy or I need to think a bit on how to respond. In the beginning, it felt weird and he was confused but I just went on. upvotes I did try reaching out my ex, telling him completely how I feel. this sub is for advice about specific dating situations not general debates. 10 votes, 17 comments. First, identify the emotion you’re experiencing and pay attention to how it feels Without directly communicating with him, it's hard to know his true reasons for leaving you on read. It took about a couple of months, and during that time, I focused on self-improvement, hit the gym, picked up some new hobbies, you know, tried to be the best version of myself. ” “I stopped being your mate when I found your d” Before you could finish, you felt light movements. The real key is to not sit there thinking I want to turn back the power on me (I felt I used to dictate the relationship at first), and want to try the “leave him on read” trick. THIS SUBREDDIT IS FOR A PODCAST CALLED Reddit On Wiki, THAT READS REDDIT STORIES. Oh, so you're just going to leave me on read? That's ok. But I see the "on read" often enough to wonder if it's on purpose and there's a meaning that I'm missing. That's a beautiful gift for the holidays, don't you think ? Anyhow, keep focusing on yourself and do not contact him at any moment. watch. And so, i don't reply to them for a few hours at a time because I can't deal with it/don't want to do deal with it. Is it too late to ask! I’m secure/Anxious. Do u guys stop talking to them? Unfollow them? Or just wait til they reply. But you have to be cool about it. I blocked him. For the record, it's not just guys that do this, but I think that's probably already assumed. Would you be bothered by being with a guy who would be annoyed or hurt by you leaving him on read? I wouldn't mind being just fwb with him, but I'd prefer he'd tell me. I love him so much that it got to a point where I didn't want us to have sins just by engaging in a haram relationship. Feelings will get hurt one way or another, but at least if you tell it to him straight, he'll have one blow of "she doesn't like me" instead of a slow trail of "read" receipts when he tries to talk with you. If your message was time-sensitive or about an important matter, waiting for a couple of days might not be feasible. If I were you I would inquire why! If no answer is given then just stop messaging and distance yourself as well. just because you wana contact someone doesn't mean they wana be contacted. Posted by u/Who_Am_I_91 - 3 votes and 2 comments Even till like 4am. A couple hours later I send a snap of something I thought was funny and he answers again with a snap of just him so I leave him on read. Met a guy on Reddit, turned out he’s a massive liar about everything including being married. Hi u/throwaway1125152652, welcome to r/narcissisticabuse. It isn't acceptable to message again imo. No-one. Follow reddit rules. I leave people on read all the time, and people leave me on read all the time. Then where I think it all went to hell was when I asked a closed ended question, which was responded with a simple “yeh”. but please don’t. He was stunned, that I would leave for something so small. But maybe he needs to be completely no contact for him to heal. 4years old) whom we just brought from our home country 2 weeks ago will be either left alone at the apartment while having someone visit him every day, or, we take him for one of those "cat care" services (i am in Barcelona btw) You can move on, really. Often when I'm playing games or watching a film, or chatting to friends (in person). After he knew that I’m not interested in being fwb with him, he told me he doesn’t want us to stop texting, but then he rarely text me. Divorces are troubling for underaged kids. A delayed response gives you a great opportunity to learn more about yourself. Ghosting by leaving someone on delivered is next level cowardice, pretending that the person doesn't even exist 10M subscribers in the relationship_advice community. • Do you need to understand terms or acronyms? Two can play at that game of leaving the other person on read. But with my pwBPD I do not. I've told him before it hurts my feelings, I want to talk to him ect, he's always responded with "I have a life", or something like that. GameStop Moderna Pfizer Johnson & Johnson AstraZeneca Walgreens Best Buy Novavax SpaceX Tesla. You should talk to him a few times if he doesnt understand second third fourth time but if he continues like a litle child. Being left on read fucking sucks and it pisses me off too but I'd just block them afterwards and delete the messages so i don't be reminded of it. But he does open the snapchats, just not responding to them. I would absolutely leave him on read. I also shared with him some news that he might be interested in. If he unadds me, it’s his loss. He unfollowed my socials so I View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. I don't wanna sound like I'm desperately gauging for a response because that's a big blow to my ego too. i feel so hurt by it. It drives me up a wall bc I just want to talk to him. sh music. The fact that they might or will regret leaving you doesn't mean you need or should take them back. leave. Actually no feedback is negative feedback. I understand your feelings are hurt, but sending a message telling him that indeed he led you on and you are hurt and disappointed that he was not upfront with his intentions about the direction We’d started the convo off well, but after a bit I realized it has devolved into me really carrying the whole interaction: I’d ask a question, he’d do the baseline to answer it, I’d respond to that and try to ask follow-up Q or find something to keep the convo going, but he’d still be boring and unenthusiastic in responding to me. We met online when I was 17 and he was 19. Without him being annoying online, I'd leave him on read. She wouldn’t be his emergency contact. I’ll still leave them on opened though. Some don't have their phones on them constantly or are constantly checking their phones, fair. I don’t mind that he plays I play with him as well but I think he could at least shoot me a quick message if he’s going to go silent for hours. Just speak to him about it as and when it bothers you. I sympathised with him when he told me it was a bit boring. The fact that my generation jumps to leaving at any hardships they come past in a relationship is mind boggling to me. Okay fine, but then he started to do it only often. My ghoster left me on delivered for an indefinite amount of time. This is how I do it if someone don’t respond delete their number contacts text messages and if they don’t text back within that day don’t take it to heart or get mad leave it alone and move on even if someone did something to u bad delete everything find peace and move on remember guys do u love yourself or love someone who don’t value u wait for couple of months things Period. Posted by u/MiserableAd1310 - 8 votes and 15 comments Honestly. "I leave my read receipts on simply for better communication," she says. It allows enough time for him to respond if he was just busy or preoccupied. Otherwise, let it go and just accept that either he’ll change or he won’t. The people defending leaving people on read should maybe just turn off their fucking read receipts. Cuz if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, quacks like a duck its a duck. But these last 2 months he seems off he left me on read for days, I'm always the one that calls him first, he doesn't reply to the reels I sent him anymore, our communication just became bad out of nowhere. Forget about him. Brand new to reddit and this is a relatively short post. Generally I don't leave people on read for a month. Otherwise he'll probably keep messaging you. Plus after turning down a stranger, even in a nice way, keyboard courage spikes and most guys turn into assholes and feel the need to talk shit because their ego is hurt so they call us ugly, fat, bitches, etc. I’m not texting him or calling him until he makes the first move. Show them that ur better off without them. I called him a few days later and he didn’t respond. this guy has definitely evolved and tried coming back a few times after this, but it was I met a guy at church (lol) and he seemed interested in me, added me on FB, went to lunch afterwards and sat next to me (in a group), texted me after Posted by u/Immediate-Map7514 - No votes and 9 comments Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. videos. About 2 days ago he started leaving me on “read” for hours on end while he’s online active and playing games. He would have made time or explained why he couldn't. Not one bit. I'm probably severely overthinking him leaving me on read. Forget about it. Gaming But potentially leaving him on read could bother him more and if he doesn't reach out cause he doesn't give a fuck maybe that will be an additional reminder that he sucks whereas if he's blocked I might be like hmm I We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. 10M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. I just wanted to say Here you go. Second. entertainment. he will see you haven't been on line for a week and think wow this chick is actually living her life. I’m debating on leaving a guy that I thought of as a close friend(he’s straight) from hs because I don’t think it’s fair that I’d have to wait days just to hear back from him but at the same time we’re not in a relationship, so I’m just tired of replying immediately or waiting back for a I hate people who do this. You, your needs, and your feelings are no longer a priority to him. I leave my girlfriend on read when i have nothing to say. No, I would never have reached out, for his own sake. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you I guess you’re right. First of all no. Thank you for posting. If you are mad about it, or demand he is constantly responding immediately, he will get scared of you. he wasnt interested. If no, move on. I'm definitely attracted to him. Shit can happen, I don’t want to write her off just cause she left me on read once. This would be my number 1 suspicion. Watch out for weirdos online. Focus on improving yourself and not getting back at people in passive aggressive ways. ambassadors. you should get off it for a bit. Even if I force myself to not be clingy or needy. It’s worth it to look back at whether your last text even needed a response! 5. Should I text him back, or wait for him to text me? Don’t do it I’ll tell you my story, so a man that I was talking with, he was always starting the chat first and he texted me almost everyday. 10 votes, 14 comments. He then sends back just a snap of him, not saying anything, so I leave him on read. Then I kinda poked a bit of fun at him as a joke, and that is when he just stopped texting. Trust, that woman will be wondering wtf she did/said wrong in that entire 24h. If you leave her on read it won’t go anywhere and shows you are adverse to putting in a lot of effort. it’s been two years from this, and life had someone better in store for me. And if you love him the way you say you do, you will understand that your need to get closure isn't as important to him as his need to heal and move on from you. You’d think by a year in, I’d have this down but I don’t. Or turn them off. I only made a fool of myself because he's just so heartless and cold. Getting left on read is Sounds like you need to cut that thread and move on, he has. Like someone else said it should feel like a conversation back and forth, albeit some people view texts differently. Not because they're "too busy", but because they can't be bothered. Yes, bad idea. Towards the end I couldn’t make up my mind. Logically I understand he’s busy with work doesn’t like chitchat and he wouldn’t leave me out of the blue. If they try to play games and leave you on read just as a "move", you need to seriously look inward and ask yourself if you want to date a person that plays games like a child, and after that you should seriously consider the possibility that those "games" will never stop. I'm glad someone mentioned this. If your gonna read messages and not respond he should have that setting off lol. Your response was dry, at least for texts. It sucks but you guys broke up. Do not call people names or engage in slapfights. this is telling me he doesn’t like me, but then when he does snap back he snaps back super quick for a little bit and is super engaged (even sending photos of his face and shoulders where he is obviously shirtless) Even in doing that, I’ll forget and leave him on read about once a day. Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. I'm tired of you". Apologies are inherently selfish, ESPECIALLY if it's words and not actions (I will die on this hill). I know that it’s good to not always respond to messages that don’t warrant a reply. Seeing him on campus reminded you & you realized when you went to dm him that he’s already dm you and you left him on read. another one offered me a price i was about to sell it to him for, and then realized he didnt speak english i tried making it work but it yeah, him leaving for another woman is a pretty shit move, especially when he's got two kids, but it sounds like your priorities are askew, because you sound like your priority is making him regret leaving, instead of ensuring that the kids are alright. All advice given must be good, ethical advice. He's uncontrolled and self medicating, that not a healthy person to be in a relationship with. girls we love. Good luck queen On a real, I don’t think leaving him on read back is playing games. I've read every single one of them and thank you from the bottom of my heart. If you leave on read, it might make her think youre easily deterred. I developed Leave her on delivered for 4 days, then read it and never respond to her again. My boyfriend does this to me ALL the time. I’ll gladly block him. If I do delete it, how long should I wait. sometime you just can't be fucked msging. It's like they have If you feel like leaving her is the best thing to do then leave. I always reply within a minute or two. You want the attention your ex can’t and doesn’t want to give and leave him or her with no choice but to leave you on read and do other/more interesting things. People cross-post stories for a chance that our podcast hosts (Sean, John and Josh) will read the story on the show. I leave people on read all the time, they don’t know, and the conversation isn’t impacted whatsoever- if/when I do reply, the conversation continues as normal. I have completely removed his access to me, aside from blocking his I think you should ask him/her if there is something wrong. He’s letting non-urgent conversations trail off. one person offered me well below what i am willing to sell it for and when i tried negotiating he didn’t reply. The advert matched the OP when I ran to Hi, we are going on a week long vacation, our cat (1. My point is. She would ditch plans, leave him on read, and generally avoid him. Yes. He was very shy and timid, and I realised I wanted someone with a bit more charisma and oomph. Understandably, this gets frustrating when he sees me tweeting or interacting with people 30 minutes later and I still haven’t replied to HIM. I am left on read a lot and i always find myself overreacting as for many of my friends, leaving others on read is quite normal. It's fine. fuck messenger and Facebook. my friend called me a bad friend because i left his last message on read and it's been a month. Since we are still in COVID, i cant exactly confront him face-to-face. As in "I left him on read", usually related to text messages. Personally, even if someone's interesting, i will leave you on read if the convo gets dry. Problem is, he lives in a different country and says hes coming in the summer again, which he is, but yesterday he left me in delivered when he was still active on insta and i cld see he was active on snap as well when i sent him a snap. Good point. And they can all collectively mock him and laugh about what a pathetic insecure loser he is. posts about I read it, but "oh no, can't leave my friend on read" so respond - "Just working" You receive my response (oh no, can't leave him on read) so respond - "Cool, I'm just chilling" Repeat literally forever because apparently no one can leave the other on read. To help make the experience more effective for everyone we do have some resources and rules for you to keep in mind. He left me on read for 3 days once. I’m also not going to unadd him. Would you just walk away in the middle of someone talking to you? Thanks for the response. beauty. Depends on a person. Another time with the same ex I got sick of nagging him about how I felt. I think if you really want to keep being friends ask him seriously what’s up. So, maybe dig a little deeper. If you are concerned about the effect of someone else's drinking on your life, please My BF and I have been together for five months now and things have been going really well! I love him a lot and have had such wonderful moments r/Crushes is a safe place for people to talk about their crushes and ask for advice. It doesn't hurt my feelings at all. Or check it out in the app stores he still thinks like a teenager. For some I’ve fallen victim to this on several occasions because of my pride and trust me it doesn’t work, especially for men. Edit: just read you’ve been texting over a year and his interest seems to be waning. the difference now is that there's a little green light that says when you're on line. Your friend didn't yell at you—it sounds like this was over text or something—and while you may want to look into therapy for severe conflict avoidance, it's not your friend's fault that this is your trauma response to I'm leaving my husband. With ignoring, you have plausible deniability that you were busy. Toward the end of their "relationship" another guy was clearly popping up more than her other friends. I understand he's busy sometimes, or doesn't wanna talk to people or not answer anyone, but I feel this is unfair and I'm putting in more than I'm getting Reddit iOS Reddit Android Reddit Premium About Reddit Advertise Blog Careers Press. And you’re sitting here wanting to text him but you’re like, “But, but And might I add he’s a fuckin idiot for leaving his read receipts on his phone. Let me warn you though, that’s one of the most attractive things a woman can do. Incest is more common than anyone thinks after all I’ve read on Reddit. Just make it read and tell him no, the break up hurt too much and you want to move on. I’m going to let him miss me. he is ghosting you but not full throttle, he is trying to be gentle. Leaving you on read and not reading your messages are different things. Ask yourself why being left on “read” frustrates or confuses you. So basically my boyfriend has been leaving me on read. If he doesn’t honor read receipts and “immediate responses” — and it’s a double standard — then fuck him and leave him on read. I don’t just mean the act of having read receipts on, I am also curious about the whole leaving him on read, or just using the “like” feature on a message he sends. She got the first one, just as they'll get the second. Let them leave you on read. I wouldn’t change your texting frequency to push him in a direction though. If he says yes, good. it has lead me to believe that things don’t happen for a good reason. If he was still into you. This is incredibly unfair of him, don't feel like you have to accept because feelings are still there, you didn't deserve to be hurt like that and he doesn't deserve to just waltz back in to your life like nothing I sent him messages about once or twice per month. Report any rule-breaking behavior to the moderators using the report button. When I texted him first, it took him hrs or day to respond. Some say “if you don’t have the time to respond, don’t read or open it. you dont love him when hes angry sad all the time. She might leave him on read and not reply for 2 days or a week, or even a month or two. After texting him, it was only 4 hours later that he responded. kind of a stoic take. You owe him literally nothing. Several times he's texted me and initiated what I thought would be a conversation but just fell apart because he's so hard to text. With leaving on read, the other person knows. ( 45y ) At first it hurt but leaving him was the right decision. So, I put it to a stop. I've dated a few shitty guys and it was always me chasing them. Nope, do not leave her on read. I love him when he is sad, angry I love him unconditionally than you say you hate the way he behaives. Romantic I have been talking to this guy for about 5 weeks, we’ve never really met but we do know of each other through friends, we have good conversations all day, he compliments me and messages me all the time, but when ever I mention us meeting he makes excuses and says he is busy. we would have interesting conversations and both listen to each other vent at times too. You can leave them on read and they’ll probably never know, because they don’t even know who they sent it to. Let him see that you are living your life and looking good without him. I got her back using the no-contact thing. When I say "leaves you on read", I mean when someone (EDIT: in my case, a "friend") reads your message (one that warrants a response, like a question) and then chooses not to respond. I am basically him. I remember with an ex he pissed me off, I told him off and the proceeded to leave him on read for the night. I want to leave him alone for a bit. OP, I read a few more comments. At the end of the day, I was really only trying to approach this as a nice guy. Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or Please make sure you read our rules here and remember to: Be polite and respect each other. ” No. Left on read, I’d rather live in ignorance and believe they just didn’t see it rather than know they chose to blow me off. That was 3 weeks ago and I haven’t heard anything from him. If you're anything like me you really don't want to hurt him and you also don't want him to hate you. But it also comes with the potential for a ton of She would ditch plans, leave him on read, and generally avoid him. I’ve been on his end and I’ll ask my friends questions like “is anyone available on this day if you don’t understand the context, feel free to look at my previous posts on this community from the past few days. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Crypto When we began our relationship he would leave me on open every once in a while. I don't know if I went all in and should've waited, but Ultimately, yes, leaving someone on read “works” to make you seem more desirable. Of course I can’t see them in return, but I don’t care. I wouldn’t want to hurt him any more and he was more than a second option. Let him chase you, stop sharing your location, leave him on read. Be mature and tell him why you are leaving him, wish him the best and move on. I asked him about the weekend vacation two days ago he hasn’t replied yet. You should reply to someone when you feel like it. Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now Should I send a goodnight message or leave them on read till the next morning? I recently saw a video where a guy complained about a girl he was talking to not sending him a “goodnight” message. You’re my mate. Nobody cares. In these situations it’s easy to doubt yourself, jump to negative conclusions, or over analyse the last message you sent. No don’t block him. Or check it out in the app stores TOPICS. If it's urgent, send us a message. From context, this seems like "unread" but maybe a typo or autocorrect gone rogue. And I cba with games either like purposely delaying replies and that but realistically I am sometimes leaving people on read for example just because I’m in the middle of doing something and then forget to reply or because I’m having me time and then cant be bothered. As much as you wish he'd stop texting there's probably a little part of you that feels good when he does because it always feels good to know you're loved and cared about. Ive confronted him a little bit, asking for a response and saying that it is hurting me. So, she might actually decide to dial it up a bit too. I see this a lot here on Reddit. Left on read :(Related Topics Turned out her boyfriend dropped by for a surprise visit; she texted me this morning apologizing profusely for "leaving you hanging" (I don't blame her; surprise boyfriend visit takes priority over random friend) Do they usually give you their full attention or do they always leave you on “read”? Do you feel like you can reach out to them and talk about a problem? If they’re usually consistent with their responses, great! If they leave you waiting around a lot but eventually get back to you, Here are six times it's more than acceptable to leave someone on read. This can be especially hurtful if the message was important or required a timely response. Instead of decoding why someone would It is awesome of you to have the courage to tell her how you feel about her and to text her. I was sad to see him lie to me about why he wanted the divorce. I think we both pushed our own issues off on each other and eroded everything. You told him this and he probably thought you were bullshitting or something, or you left him on read and that's even worse lol. We talk over a messaging app and I am considering just deleting the message, since he obviously didn’t deserve me to be so open and sweet again. No really, that's ok. In person that can definitely come across as weird or rude. Don't message back. 71K subscribers in the AlAnon community. It got to the point where I'd leave him on read, he'd wait a few weeks, send another message, I'd leave it on read. AITBF for leaving him on read. Move on. If she left you on seen after not responding for a whole day chances are she isn’t interested in you or she is in a relationship with someone. I don't expect everyone's world to revolve around me. I also told him it is OK if he just doesn't want to reply, I will be here whenever he wants to talk or needs any help. Welcome to r/dating_advice!. She knew then how powerless she really was, and in order to protect the one she loves she has to leave him Posted by u/TransportationNo6246 - 1 vote and 2 comments It seems about 75-90% of the time they either leave me on read or leave me on delivered. LGBTQ+ are welcome :) We also have a Discord server. Before the podcast started reading reddit stories, the hosts would choose a topic and research it using Wikipedia. 😅 that doesn’t mean I don’t care about them or that I’m playing games. I texted him the other day saying I miss him, and sorry for bothering him. Being left in read means in a messaging platform, you send a message to sombody, normally who you like, and having them not respond, even after reading the message, thus leaving you “on read” it’s generally hurtful because it somewhat implies that they don’t want to talk to you. And Being left on read may be perceived as worse by some, as it indicates that the recipient has seen the message and chosen not to respond. I will end the marriage and I will tell him that it is because we aren’t compatible anymore. Nothing about your situation has changed. That is why I don't usually message. There's a guy I'm semi-interested in, I wanted to get to know him and befriend him before flirting or asking him out. so basically my solution to that was, to leave him on read before he could do that to me (i know when he leaves me on read it’s unintentional, and he knows that he’s my FP) a small problem is that we barely text because of it, but that’s better than splitting on him right? 🙃 Hello, another reddit stranger here. That at the time you saw his dm before and forgot to respond bc you were busy at the time and forgot completely. Leaving people on read or not responding to memes happens, people get busy/forget/don’t have the energy. That will hurt him!”, which means that people know when it Posted by u/Szernet - 6,015 votes and 28 comments If she's left you on read, maybe she'll get back to you, maybe she won't. He’s not putting himself in dangerous situations and then leaving her on read when she checks in. So, I've been with my BF for a while now. For all I know, something's going on - or they have so much anxiety/work/etc. Especially a stranger. Work on yourself. Leaving on read is bad feedback. He may even have just been busy yesterday because he's a grad student in a STEM profession (I graduated and work full time). Yes, I get busy, but then I either don't check my phone at all or check the short message preview but don't click on it. Honest to god. He obviously is looking at his phone and has clicked on the message. Just let him know that you want him to give you more attention and that you want him to try harder with messaging you. Find something you love to do and distract yourself to keep from the thoughts of him. I won’t go into details bc it’s a long story. It pushed me to get the counseling I needed and start really thinking about who I am and what I want. I texted him again yesterday to ask if he has couple of minutes to meet me, because I really want to see him. Read this article for a more sensible solution Still with me? Good. Everything is fine in our relationship, I couldn't complain. the first nice friend ive had used to text me a lot. Once you beg for someone they have full control over you. He said he wouldn't but continues to so. Sometimes you just really aren’t up to messaging people, sometimes you’re busy (she’s still at work), etc. It wouldn’t hurt, imo. But some people are emotionally draining to talk to. It’s rude and incompassionate to have them turned on knowing you do this to people. Youll find someone else. Do not post hateful or harmful rhetoric - you will be banned. That they were holding u back the whole time 💪 I was in a situationship that just ended badly. Best thing to do is let her leave you on read, carry on with your life and if she gets back then great, if not, whatever. Crypto In the past I’ve tried leaving him several times but always went back after giving in and responding to him. Part of me wants to reply and hear him out for the closure I never got, but the other part of me just wants to ignore it/leave him on read (both to stick it to him and to not face those year-old emotions again). One could say that I left my first husband because he has a substance abuse problem. Use that beautiful time to improve yourself and become the best version of you ! Be careful with what you write back — if at all — and live life. You don't wanna come off clingy. It’s plenty of women out there who won’t leave you on read so keep on trying until you find the one for you. I'd personally leave him on read, as giving him the satisfaction of a well thought out response only after 2 months of talking is not worth it to me. Gaming I act similarly, too. Left on delivered can be because they don't have Rather than wasting your time trying to get words out of him - here is my suggestion. the only time one of us would be left Yes, it’s a bit lazy and can feel somewhat cruel if you’ve already established mutual interest or even commitment, but leaving a message “on read” is the non-confrontational method of Actions speak louder than words. On my own end of things, I thought if I really didn’t think about all the texting politics and “making yourself seem busy” and that if I just genuinely asked the girl out and set a date, then maybe I can skip all the bullshit politics/chess playing and get straight down to business by going out on Let him do what he needs to do to get over her! If this gives him back his power and sense of self worth then let him have it. And I have met some people who have told me “just leave him on read. 43 votes, 23 comments. We weren’t dating, just sleeping together. Or just the expression “to leave someone on read”? Something similar to “me colgué” in Spanish haha They might even bring up leaving your last text on read themself. i’m thankful for all the times life/god/the universe said no to certain people/situations/plans. If you want to talk, call and you are so "busy" checking instagram pics then good luck As stated above, your best advice is to just move on from being left on read. But I don’t know if it is cowards move to leave it sitting there read and unanswered or more cowardly to delete it. Leaving others on read means you had time to check your phone and messages, but you couldn't bother to reply to them. He has been able to manipulate me every time to go back. Literally. I left him because he lied about what he was doing, where he was, wouldn't come home, didn't help out when I had medical issues, spread lies about me to friends and family (even before I had ever mentioned splitting up), spent his paycheck on said substances then told me that he didn't get We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. hey thanks for your response. Usually ghosters leave you on read. Reading all your comments, I've realised that I don't think I actually do want to leave him, I just want to feel that he wants me to be here and for him to behave slightly differently. 5M subscribers in the dating_advice community. "Left on read" is when you're having a conversation with someone, and they read your response and just leave the conversation there. Let him think whatever. Especially after Rudeus legit died in her arms for a while. Move on, do you really want to live the rest of your life with someone who doesn't answer you no,why would you. But I could never be with a guy bothered by being left on read. Please, guys and gals, anything and everything in between and then some - just say what you think, who you're thinking of Edit: I just want to expand slightly. 2. They didn't care enough to respond. 6 Times It’s Okay to Leave Someone on Read. He’s never left me on read before so it caught me off guard. "Left on read" does not mean someone just opened the message and just hasn't had the chance to respond yet. Read the list see the real him and you can finally start moving on and stop Business, Economics, and Finance. This is why I hate Snapchat since you have to open it to see what they said. Looking for any kind of advice or insight into this. your life. But if his level of investment and responsiveness suddenly changes after two months of To help you determine whether this person is purposefully ignoring you or just can’t answer the phone right now, we’ve compiled a list of tips. Sometimes people will deliberately leave you on read to see if you'll freak out about it and start asking why she's left you on read etc. Posted by u/LaosInTranslation - 1 vote and 28 comments Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. In the example where she Trust me I’m a guy lol. Tiny bit of backstory, I tried dating a guy and he ghosted me for an entire month and broke the silence by telling me to fuck off and now I can't stand people leaving me on read or dropping out of an ongoing conversation. I’ll read it to see what you had to say and if it doesn’t require a response, that’s not my fault. To leave on read is almost an insult, but not necessarily. . I told him that I understand that women had done this before but the fact that HE thought I would do this to him is what bothered me. Download Article. I have never heard anyone about being bothered by being left on read. As an earned secure-leaning person, I wanna talk about communication and when I find myself leaving people on read in It reads like you're using your past trauma to justify leaving your friend on read when he was a having an awful day. Walk away silently and not Seems like u still think about them, since u have to choose to either leave them on read or delivered. gxejmmpgcppbebgmuilnpnskwqjepzxnujtwicgvmmucqecifwdalnhbxwcniyyssgfhgcuwek